Sunday 12 August 2012

The Ugly And Unguarded Truth About Domestic Violence

By Jonthan Daine


People's perception of domestic violence is something that is often shaped by one's beliefs and culture. In some cultures, it is taboo to hit a woman, or for a woman to raise her hand on a man. When a fight breaks out, one of the parties involved should step up to the plate and take the blame. This is something that is done by the female party.

There are cultures where it is pounded into the psyche of a woman that she always have to be submissive to her husband. In other cultures, the woman is raised to understand and know her rightful position of submissiveness to her husband. Since it is already embedded in their cultural makeup, these women will endure being treated badly in their own homes. In addition, the men will use this as an excuse to batter their wives and impose subjective and violent dominance over them.

Imbalance within the personalities of the victim and the abuser is quite common in many of these domestic violence cases. Take a look at the abused, for instance. Some of them are always looking for reasons to fight with their partner. They view fighting as an affirmation for the feelings of love and affection, and they actually find pleasure in the act of fighting. They think that it is not a real relationship if there are no fights or arguments. Meanwhile, abusers are found to derive great satisfaction from the act of fighting. They do love their spouse. However, it is in their nature to be violent, and they prefer to express themselves through acts of violence and inflicting pain and injuries. This is often used as an argument in court, letting the abuser get off scot-free after inflicting injuries on his or her spouse.

There are many legal angles that have to be checked out in a problem such as this. Although many legal institutions like the police will respond to emergencies of domestic violence, this cases will not have enough support. More often than not, victims do not really follow up on the case and fail to show any extreme injuries, so the case dies prematurely. There is a glaring lack of decisiveness in the legal approach that is normally employed to deal with these cases. If you look at the status quo in America, you will find that there are no records kept regarding these cases. Also, the abuser may be punished and serving his time, but the victim will still be unable to appear anywhere.

Many cases of domestic violence will never see the light of day, and forever remain in the dark. Such cases are common in closely neat families that keep to themselves. The unexpected outcomes in such instances will be of an abuser who portrays a deep love and protection for his or her family, a bit silent in nature, but exudes a friendly aura.

But after the shocking realization that the friendly man across the street is actually an abuser behind closed doors, the people are not really keen on doing what should be done. They think that all private family matters should be resolved by the family and they, as outsiders, should just stay out. Sad, but true, this ugly fact will always hound cases of domestic violence.




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